Love Well

In today’s society, it is easy to see all of the hate in the world and none of the love. There is an incredible amount of hate going on from things like bullying in a classroom to the things like war and inequality across the nation.

That is why is it our job as followers of Christ to love, and actually love well.

“So this is my prayer: that your love will flourish and that you will not only love much but well. Learn to love appropriately. You need to use your head and test your feelings so that your love is sincere and intelligent, not sentimental gush. Live a lover’s life, circumspect and exemplary, a life Jesus will be proud of: bountiful in fruits from the soul, making Jesus Christ attractive to all, getting everyone involved in the glory and praise of God.” Philippians 1:9-11 MSG

The love we show to others is just not about quantity,  but quality. It is not just about how much we love or how many people we love, it is about how deeply and sincerely we love. As followers of Christ, it is our job to love as Christ loves us. We do this to glorify God and show the lost how fulfilling it is to be found.

We must set the example for love. In no way are we perfect, but God’s love is. It is extremely important for followers of Christ to love well. We have to treat all people how we want to be treated. We have to love all people. We are all children of God, so treat everyone like it. We do not get to pick and choose who we love because God loves everyone single one of us.

We have to stomp out the hate in the world with real, life-changing love. Love that breaks the shackles and sets people free.

When we set out to love others, we have to make sure that we also love ourselves.

“My dear children, let’s not just talk about love; let’s practice real love. This is the only way we’ll know we’re living truly, living in God’s  reality. It’s also the way to shut down debilitating self-criticism, even when there is something to it. For God is greater than our worried hearts and knows more about us than we do ourselves. And friends, once that’s taken care of and we’re no longer accusing or condemning ourselves, we’re bold and free before God! We’re able to stretch our hands out and receive what we asked for because we’re doing what he said, doing what pleases him.” 1 John 3:18-22 MSG

We have to truly love ourselves in order to live a fruitful life that glorifies God. When we really love ourselves, it is easier to love people because we can connect with them on a deeper and spiritual level.

God knows literally every single thing about you. There is no part of your life that is hidden from him. He knows you better than you know yourself. God knows what has happened on your hardest and darkest days, yet he still loves you unconditionally. He knew your weaknesses and failures before you were even born, yet he still sent his son Jesus to die on the cross for your sins so that you could live an eternal life in heaven.  That is real love.

Do not let your self-doubt keep you from loving yourself and loving others. Love yourself so that you will be ready with arms open wide for whatever and wherever God takes you next.

God has big plans for you. He is going to use you in ways that you cannot even imagine, but you first have to love yourself.

 

Thank You Mom.

54951_179324938745114_4374993_oAccording to Urban Dictionary, a mom is the woman who loves you unconditionally from birth, the one who puts her kids before herself and the one who you can always count on above everyone else. Just telling her your problems makes you feel better because mom’s always know how to make it all go away. Those moms deserve to be celebrated.

Although there are so many great moms who actually gave birth to their children, not all moms gave birth to their children. There are so many kids all around the world that were blessed to have a mom that didn’t give birth to them, but raised them and loved them like their own. Those moms deserve to be celebrated.

There are many moms around the world that are in heaven. It is hard to live without them, but their memory still lives on through their children. Those moms deserve to be celebrated.

Some moms have children who are in heaven. Loss is extremely difficult, but the mothers still honor their child’s memory in everything they do. Those moms deserve to be celebrated.

I am so thankful that I have a mom that perfectly fits the definition of a mom. My mom has loved me unconditionally from the moment I entered the world (probably even before that). She always puts me and my little sister before herself. I know that I can always count on her, and she definitely always knows how to make me feel better.

God seriously blessed me by giving me my mom. My mom has always been my No. 1 fan, pushed me to do my best, sat through every choir/dance/piano recital, gone to all of my competitions, gone to every award ceremony and everything else  in between.

I definitely could not survive without my mom. She does so much for me and I seriously can’t thank her enough for it. I love to write, but there aren’t enough words to accurately explain how much my mom means to me. I seriously could not live without her.

My mom answers all of my stupid questions. My mom supports my dreams. My mom gives me good advice. My mom is always my No. 1 cheerleader. My mom lets me “borrow” all of her clothes. My mom works hard for me. My mom sends me care packages. My mom lets me call her a billion times a day. My mom shaped me into the person I am today. My mom spoils me. My mom gave me her good looks. My mom is my role model. My mom loves me unconditionally.

My mom does all of that and more. I could go on forever about all of the things my mom does for me because she is seriously that incredible.

I might be in college and technically be an “adult,” but I still need my mom and I will always need my mom. I love her so much and I wish that I could give her the world because she definitely deserves it.

Although today, May 8, is dedicated to celebrating mothers, we should celebrate all mothers every single day. They don’t get to just pick and choose when they are our mom, they will be our mom forever. They never stop doing so much for us, so we should never stop celebrating them.

Happy Mother’s Day to all of the mom’s out there. Let us celebrate you and everything you do for us today and everyday.

Thank you mom.

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“As Wonderful As Romance Is, It Isn’t The Only Love That Exists.”

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Romance. What does that look like to you? Usually when I hear the word romance I think of the  romantic movies that everyone watches like The Notebook and basically any other Nicholas Sparks book.

In this society, everyone seems to purely associate love with romance. Love is singly portrayed as a man who plans the perfect date for the girl he is in love with. This makes the world believe that love is only described as some big romantic gesture.

When little girls and boys associate romance with love, then all they are going to strive to do is to get a romantic partner so they can feel what “love” is really like.

Trust me, I used to think that I was unworthy and not lovable just  because I did not have a boyfriend. I thought that being single meant that “nobody” loved me. Oh was I wrong. How can I feel unloved when I have family, friends, and a God who love me more than anything in the world?

I have a secret for you…romantic gestures are NOT the only form of love.

Love is a mother seeing her newborn baby for the first time.

Love is a father taking his son to his first football game.

Love is a boy getting his first dog.

Love is a little girl dressing up as her mommy.

Love is two best friends laughing till their stomachs hurt.

Love is a God who sent his son to die on the cross for our sins.

Every single type of love out there IS IMPORTANT. Love is so much more than someone making a grand romantic gesture. Yes, romantic gestures are a great way to show your love for someone, but you do not need a relationship to feel love.

So many young men and women all around the world sit alone at night and wish with all their heart to find their “soulmate” so that they can feel that feeling of love. They do not realize that there is so much love all around them that will make them just as happy, maybe even happier, than just the love of a significant other.

Just because you do not have a boyfriend or girlfriend does not mean you are  unlovable or unworthy. Your worth does not come from the love you get from your significant other. You have worth because the creator of the universe loves you and made you. There is no love as mighty and as fierce as that never-ending love from your heavenly father.

I am not saying that you should not want to find your perfect match and fall in love. I am saying that you should not focus on being alone when you have so much love in your life. Be excited about the love you have for your friends. Be excited about the love you have for your family. Be excited about the love you have for God. Be excited about the love you have for life around you.

So I just want to assure you, even if you are single you are SO loved. You do not need to only focus on finding a significant other to feel loved when you are loved by others.

 

“Can I tell you a secret? You don’t have to be in a relationship.

I mean it. I know they force it down your throat until you choke on it. Girls aren’t pretty unless they’re wanted. Boys aren’t men unless they’re having sex with someone. People aren’t lovable until they’re dating someone.

But a relationship won’t always make you happy, and as wonderful as romance is, it isn’t the only love that exists. I have seen friendships that are deeper and more pure than couples who swear it’s forever – and yet the friendship is the one people ignore.

I have heard so often “nobody loves me” out of the mouths of people who are single. And it kills me because if you ask them: where are your parents, your teachers, your classmates, your pets – they say, yes, okay, but it doesn’t count. Of course it counts, love doesn’t diminish just because someone doesn’t want to have sex with you. In fact, doesn’t it sort of make that love more real that they want nothing – not even a date – out of you?

It is pretty to be in love. It’s magical, I’m sure. But it’s also wonderful to stop for ice cream in your prom dress with six other girls. It’s also wonderful to go visit the world with nothing but a bunch of buddies who are really excited about learning.

The problem is: we’ve made everything about “the one”. But maybe “the one” is just you, loving yourself, having fun, and being happy. Maybe instead of looking for our other halves, we should be piecing ourselves together.

Maybe I wasn’t born unfinished. Maybe I am the one who makes myself better.”