Sometimes Good Things Fall Apart So Better Things Can Fall Together.

Rejection. Failure. Loss. Flaws.

All words that immediately create a feeling of fear in many people.

Most people tend to strive for perfection, even when we know that nobody is perfect. We often collapse as soon as we fail, or sometimes we won’t try at all for fear of future failure. We stray away from taking risks and trying new things because we are so fearful of not being good enough. We want to save ourselves from the embarrassment of people knowing our failures or the feeling of worthlessness that seems to overtake us.

When we stop taking risks and trying new things, we miss out on the greater things in life. Yes, it is hard to fail. It is hard to face rejection. It is hard to feel like you aren’t good enough. But, wouldn’t you rather fail then miss out on amazing opportunities just because you were scared of failure?

If you didn’t take a risk somewhere along the way, would you have the friends you have now? Would you have made it through high school? Would you have gotten a college degree? Would you have the job you have now? Would you have dated the person you are now married to? Would you have made lifelong memories?

Usually, good things never come easy. You might hit some bumps in the road and fall down a few times before you finally reach your destination. You might even reach your destination only to realize that you need to go to a completely different destination. Once you do finally reach your final destination, all of the bumps and falls that happened along the way are completely worth it.

It is important to remember that everything happens for a reason. There is always something to learn whether it is a failure or success. We have to remember to trust God because he has a plan for us even when we can’t see it.

We can’t always see where the road leads, but God promises there’s something better up ahead and we just have to trust Him.

“When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.” Psalm 56:3

Forget about:

  • failure
  • rejection
  • loss 
  • flaws.

Focus on:

  • new experiences
  • new people
  • new opportunities
  • more happiness.

God has equipped you with the right tools and He has made you who you are for a reason. Every single thing he puts you through has a purpose. You have to learn from everything and use it to grow into the person God plans for you to be.

“Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle.” Christian D. Larson

You are good enough. You are smart enough. You are strong enough. You are fully prepared to take risks because you have God on your side ready to lead you through anything and everything.

Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. You might not believe that when you are in the midst of a personal storm, but I promise that it is true. Good things are always right around the corner even if you don’t think so. Take heart and trust God because good things are coming your way as long as you are patient and place your trust in God.

 

 

 

When It Seems That Your “Good” Just Isn’t “Good Enough”

We all have  goals and aspirations in life . It seems that life as a college student has put a lot of perspective on the goals that I have. Goals that I had in high school have evolved and I have started to realistically figure out what I want in life. Now trust me, I definitely do NOT have my life figured out in any way. I just have small and large goals that I am taking on one step at a time. Some goals change, and some goals stay the same as I grow and learn.

When I set my eye on something I want, I go after it. If I really want it, then I make sure that I put all of my effort into making sure I can obtain my goal. When I have a goal, I really set my heart into it. When you put that much effort into something, you really expect to get what you worked so hard for. I always try my very best, but it seems that sometimes my “good” just isn’t “good enough.”

When you have the mindset that your “good” just isn’t “good enough,” you can get into a really dark place. It is so hard to hear the word “no” when you so desperately want to hear that “yes.” I’m going to be brutally honest. When I don’t seem to reach my goal or get what I want, I automatically label myself as a failure. My self-worth goes right down the toilet. I just want to give up and forget about all of the hard work that I put into it. The hard work seems pointless. It makes me feel like I am worthless and insignificant. I tell myself that I will never be “good enough.” It makes me want to turn off all of the lights and forget about my problems.

We have to stop thinking that we are not “good enough.” 

What does “good enough” even mean?

According to thesaurus.com, some synonyms for “good enough” are: able, qualified, deserving, worthy, desirable and well-suited.

We are deciding that our worth is based off of the opportunities that we get…or do not get. Let me tell you something…your worth comes from God. Did you get that? Your worth comes from God. Not from the job you did or didn’t get. Not from the organization you applied for. Not from your success. Not from your failures. Your worth comes solely from God.

You are worthy because the God of the universe made you and He loves you.

“For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” Psalm 139: 13-14

How do you feel when you fail? You feel like that person just criticized everything about you and it doesn’t make you feel good. So, how do you think God feels when you criticize his masterpiece: YOU?

When you criticize yourself by saying you aren’t “good enough,” you are criticizing God’s handiwork. God delicately made you just the way that you are and He loves every single inch of you. You have to look at yourself through God’s eyes.

Trust me, you are going to get rejected a whole lot. You will get rejected from jobs, organizations, and even people. Instead of focusing on the negatives, we have to focus on the positives. 

It’s easy to focus on being upset and angry that we didn’t get what we want. Instead, we should try harder to focus on the good things that come out of it and have a positive attitude:

  • Usually, when we don’t get what we want it just means that something better is right around the corner.
  • It means that God needs us for something else in that moment.
  • Rejection is a great opportunity to learn something from the situation.
  • It might be God’s plan to add something to your testimony to help others.

If you go into a situation remembering that your worth is not based on their opinion of you then you will be happy with the outcome as long as you know you did your best. Yes, it’s okay to be sad and maybe a little frustrated if something doesn’t work out, but you have to move on and then look to the bigger and better things that are right around the corner.